Men and women are different. I think it is pretty obvious that God made us to compliment each other. It says in the Bible that God made Adam a "help meet". If you do research on the what it actually means to be a help meet, it doesn't mean someone to do the less important chores that the man can't be bothered with. It means to rescue, to save, to be strong, to support, and to encourage someone. Without a help meet (Eve) Adam could have done nothing.
Women and men have differences that extends beyond their body parts. Men have tendencies to do things most women do not. Women also have tendencies to do and feel things men do not. Men tend to be more logical and primitive. Women tend to be more nurturing, emotional and complex. Women tend to be better at critical thinking than men, but men tend to be more decisive and less afraid to make "big moves" than women. Now by saying this I am not saying "because women are usually less decisive, women should not be decisive and if you are you need to 'fix' that". I am saying that these differences are very common, and while not everyone has the tendencies or habits that go along with their gender role, most people do.
Feminists say that there are more male CEOs than female, and that is true. But I personally do not believe it is because women are afraid to get jobs or grow up believing they can't. I think it is because the average CEO is 48 years old, and they have been working at their companies for more than a few years. If you'd like to become a CEO you either have to dedicate your life to a company, or start your own. But when a man and a woman have children, most of the time the woman stays at home to take care of her child. And I think that is awesome. I truly believe there is nothing more important than the work of a stay at home parent, to raise and influence the next generation. I do not believe that this happens because the women are told they can't make it in the work force but because most women have the tendency to nurture, and choose to work in the home.
I am not saying there is no gender inequality, but I do think there is less than what people would like to believe. I also believe that a lot of the inequality is driven by women, not men. Women are hyper sexualized in the media, but what are men? Women are made to look like objects of lust while men look like bumbling idiots. Seriously, I can think of more TV shows that feature strong female characters than male ones. All of the ones I have seen recently make the men look like pigs, slobs, horn dogs, and over all idiots. I can literally think of one show with one male lead (of the three male leads it has) that doesn't look like a total buffoon. I can however list several with strong female leads (the closer/major crimes, the good wife, raising hope, pretty little liars, once upon a time, new girl, suburgatory, ect).
On top of that if we'd like advertising like this to stop:
We need to stop buying things like this, and stop making the beaches look like this:
People complain all of the time that Victoria Secret makes underwear to sexual and objectifies women, but we still shop there don't we? (I don't because I don't have $80 for a bra, but you know what I mean)
Attacking the stay at home mother is not the way to create equality. Bringing down men is not the way to create equality. The way to create equality is to do whatever your heart and mind wants to do. If you have to work harder than you think a man would to prove you can do his job, then work harder. If you have to do extra to get the same amount of appreciation as someone else, then do more. Work hard every single day. Be an example to others that we can do things, and make a difference.
Gandhi said "Be the change you want to see in the world" He didn't say burn your bra and tell men to screw themselves. I would like to see a world where people mind their own business. I'd like to see world where if a majority of women want to stay at home and raise children they can. I'd like to see a world where someone can believe in Jesus Christ and God the Father without being called idealistic children. I'd like to see a world where you can be a proud of yourself regardless of race or gender.
Attacking the stay at home mother is not the way to create equality. Bringing down men is not the way to create equality. The way to create equality is to do whatever your heart and mind wants to do. If you have to work harder than you think a man would to prove you can do his job, then work harder. If you have to do extra to get the same amount of appreciation as someone else, then do more. Work hard every single day. Be an example to others that we can do things, and make a difference.
Gandhi said "Be the change you want to see in the world" He didn't say burn your bra and tell men to screw themselves. I would like to see a world where people mind their own business. I'd like to see world where if a majority of women want to stay at home and raise children they can. I'd like to see a world where someone can believe in Jesus Christ and God the Father without being called idealistic children. I'd like to see a world where you can be a proud of yourself regardless of race or gender.
So mind your own business. Believe what you'd like, support who you'd like, love who you'd like, be whoever you'd like to be (as long as it hurts no one and is a law abiding citizen) and leave other people alone! I am proud of myself, not because I am a white Christian woman, but because I have overcome trials that people of all ages, genders and races endure, and I came out on top.
The way to really make a difference is to stop victimizing yourself for being a minority. We are ALL minorities. I am a woman, I am Christian, I am a republican. I work hard for everything I have. Just because you are a white straight male doesn't mean you don't work hard to earn what you have. We all have trials and things that work against us. We all endure being judged and harassed. If you didn't get the job instead of deciding the man interviewing you is a sexist pig, consider that there may have been a better qualified applicant, or that you just weren't what they were looking for. Make a difference by using words that uplift, encourage and support people! I love this campaign (commercial below) but I do feel that many men are also spoken to and put down with demeaning words.
In conclusion I am standing by my opinion that men and women were created equally, but different. The work done inside the home is super important and just as important as that done in the work force. Women need to celebrate the things that make them different from men instead of bemoaning them. I believe that because women are constantly complaining about what men have that they don't, they are putting down and demeaning what they have that men don't. I believe that with hard work and faith we can do anything. But supporting each other in doing whatever it is we do is important, whether you'd like to do it or see it as merit worthy or not.
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