Three Major Problems with Relationships and Dating

I hate dating. I have been in a relationship for the last few years, and I haven’t really been in the game at all through high school but now I am, and I hate dating. There are three major problems with relationships in my opinion. All of which I overcome because as you all know I am perfect ;] haha. So I am going to talk about the three things anyone and everyone in or looking for a relationship should think about.

#1 – The Most Important Kind of Love

Everyone is looking for their other half, or their missing piece. But the most important kind of love a person can have is self respect. Love you. But in order to love you, you have to get to know yourself a little bit. One of my favorite examples of this is the movie Runaway Bride. Julia Roberts stars in this movie as Maggie, the girl who has run away at the altar FIVE times! Why? Richard Greer (her charming costar) interviews the ex-grooms to find out. It’s because she didn’t know her. She conformed to the person she loved. And she did love these men, she just didn’t love herself. And how could she? She didn’t know herself so that she could love herself. Take that time, find you, love you, be you, and commit.

#2 – Alone Time

I am a needy person. I’ll be the first to admit that I like spending all of my time with the person I care for. But my sister once said a very wise thing (as she often does). She said “In a healthy relationship there needs to be a you, a me, and an us together.” That is SO true. Let him have guy time, and friend’s time. Make sure YOU have you time and girl time as well. If you don’t you’ll lose you in the togetherness and you will feel trapped. And then if anything goes south and your relationship is over, people who kept themselves will not feel as inclined or desperate to go find a new man to be together with again. They will be content with just themselves.

#3 – Work

Relationships are work. That’s all there is to it. Sometimes a VERY lucky person meets someone who they never argue with and they get along with %97 of the time, but that hardly ever happens. Don’t be bent on being one of the few who hardly ever have to work. Good relationships are based on trust, communication, compromise, and all of those things take WORK! If things aren’t easy don’t quit! Work on it! Fight for it! Otherwise you will never find “the one”. (in my opinion there is no the one anyways. Any two people who love each other and have the same values and goals in life can be together IF they are willing to work of coarse :] )

<3 Final Words: Make sure that you love, work for, and find yourself always :]