So I have refrained from writing a massive gay marriage status
(who here is surprised they haven't seen one from me yet?) on facebook. Until now anyways, I guess I
figured if I post it on my blog you guys have the full option to read it and
the comments on your own. I am going to say right now, that these are my
personal opinions, not those of my family members (or husband) and certainly
not what I think everyone has to believe or they are unintelligent. Everyone is
entitled to their own opinion. This is mine. If you choose to comment on this
post with an opposing opinion I will read it and probably won’t respond,
because you know how I feel. And isn't it great that we can all have different
opinions on such an important issue and still be friends? I think so.
I
support gay marriage. It’s been proven that people who are gay often have
different hormonal balances than straight people. This means they are born with
it. On top of that there have been young children that have admittedly stated
that they are gay (or even transgender) and stuck with that their whole life.
Even in the bible it says that children are innocent and we should be like
them. Well some of them are gay. I also feel like it is wrong to deny two
people who live together and coexist (and even some who start families
together) the legal rights of those in an official marriage. Some people feel
like the answer to this is Civil Unions or Domestic Partnerships, but I am a
little against those. Why? If it looks like a marriage, smells like a marriage
and acts like a marriage, it's a marriage. To me that's like saying to someone
"you can't have a ten dollar bill, but you can have two five dollar
bills." Well why can’t you just let them have a ten? It's the same things,
worth the same amount but you just want to change the name for a different
group of people to alienate them? I disagree with that.
I
also believe that there is nothing wrong with allowing others to do something
that you disagree with if it isn't hurting you! In the case of drugs and
alcohol, if other people were legally allowed to consume those things then it
would affect my children's education, safety, my safety (especially on the
road). I don't think we should legalize anything that hinders your ability to
think or act as you would if you were not under the influence of that
substance. But being married to your gay partner doesn't change decisions
except for those of commitment and love and growth. Good choices. I support
those choices. But if you don't, if you think that gay marriage is a sin and
people shouldn't do it, you can still support other people having the free
agency to make their own choices. They don’t hurt your lifestyle or safety. You
still have the free agency to teach your kids that even though it's legal to
have gay marriage (just like it's legal to watch porn, sleep with multiple
partners, lie, and dress like a skank) that it's still wrong. So why if it
doesn't change you or the way you live your life should you not allow for
others to have the free agency to live theirs the way they want to?
Last
but not least I believe in the separation of church and state. I do not believe
that the bible is a good enough reason to ban gay marriage. I do believe it's a
good enough reason for someone to believe it is a sin, or to choose not to practice
their impulses, and even a good enough reason to form your own personal
political opinion. But I don't believe its grounds to prevent a law, and I
don't allow it to form my opinion. Some people believe this is a religious
issue, but it's not. By definition this is a political issue.
I
do have to say that whether gay marriage is legalized or not, I think there
needs to be a nation-wide policy on it. I am not for big government. I feel
like the states should have most of the power. And if one state wants to have
different gun laws, or educational laws (which it should have the later) then
that's great! But when it comes to marriage and the legalities of it, it's too
big for the states. As it is now it's ridiculous that in some states there is
no marriage preformed or recognized, there is no marriage preformed but it is recognized
if it was performed in another state, no marriage is preformed but a civil
union is recognized if preformed outside of the state (but not a marriage),
civil union is preformed and marriage (as well as civil union) is recognized if
preformed in another state, civil union is preformed and recognized (but not a
marriage), Gay marriage is preformed and recognized. This means is one state a
couple could be married in another they are in a civil union in another they
are married (but only because they were in another state) and in another state
they lose all of their legal rights to their marriage and/or civil union and
are now not recognized by the government as a unit. That's ridiculous. We need
one policy that goes to all the states.
Final
Words♥: don't hate on people who don't share your opinion on the matter. "Returning
violence for violence only multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a
night already devoid of stars. Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light
can do that. And hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that."
~Martin Luther King Jr.
